The Bigger Chill

Greetings Divine One,

There is a big trend nowadays towards reducing stress. Have you noticed? More people are finding yoga, relaxing music, bodywork, meditation, etc. as an outlet for their stressful existence. Power to them.

I find it of interest, though, that not many are questioning the stressful itself. Instead, we have brought our paradigm of “medicating the symptoms” into our quest for relaxation.

Now don't misunderstand me: meditation will help. Yoga will help. All of it is great.

Don’t let me get in the way of you and your eye mask at the end of the day!

But I would ALSO like to propose something really groundbreaking: calm the f^%# down, too. (I use the acronym CTFD when I'm giving myself a pep talk sometimes).

Few are talking about the truly lasting benefits of bringing less stress into your “regular life” moments. But the truth is, every moment would feel as good as a warm bath if we didn’t bring so much stress into it.

It’s a choice. In fact, it’s just a really bad habit.

The sad thing is, the more stress we put into our daily moments, the harder our life is, and the more evidence we see that life is stressful.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

You can start a new habit. A habit of thought.

This new habit will be framed around the idea that all you need to do in any moment is CHILL. Be alert, be responsive, be deliberate. You can be mindful without being slow, or spaced out. No one is asking you to be the Buddha at your day job.

But you can observe a little more and react a little less. How much less stress would there be in your life if you ACCEPTED each moment for what it was—all the while maintaining a clear and fear-free vision of what you would prefer for the next moment?

All you need to do is to create a new habit around virtually anything to see results. Don’t overhaul your entire life. Start with one thing.

Maybe it’s driving
Maybe it’s laundry
Maybe it’s your children
Maybe it’s making dinner

Aim to reframe one of these activities as stress-free and fun. When an annoying thought comes to surface, notice it. Allow it. Choose a better interpretation. One that allows you to feel good.

Do this consistently for 40 days.

Your work is to make one activity in your life less stressful by having more fun. I know this sounds like grueling work (sarcasm), but if you’re reading this you know you want to try it!

And meditate too. :-)

Sirgun Kaur

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