Socializing vs. Connecting... A Question to Sara

I loved this question/answer because it deals with connecting to each other in an authentic way. We place undo importance on "socializing" with people, where when we are looking for is an actual connection--first and foremost--to who we truly are. I particularly enjoyed hearing Sara say "human chatter is not the highest form of connection." That made me giggle. How true is that? Let me know what you think of this one!

Question: How dangerous is isolation from socialising and how do we overcome this block to regain connection with others?


What you call socializing is not what we call connection. Being in the same space with others does not necessarily mean you are connecting with them. You are always connected to them however, which is a different thing entirely.

Let us begin here: you may imagine that in order to communicate with someone, certain parameters are necessary—including your voice, or physical distance, or an apparatus such as a telephone or computer… for “connection.” Your true power of connection is occurring when you tap into the infinite stream that connects all things. And since you are never separate from that, you cannot every truly be separate or alone.

You can, however perceive that you are alone and that is what we think your question is alluding to. When you are unwilling or unmotivated to go out and be around other people, you may do this for a couple of reasons. It may be that you are doing something incredibly inspiring in your own space, and your need for other physical bodies is not strong enough to pull you towards socializing with others. It could also be that you are feeling uninspired generally, have dipped into a lower vibrational stream, and the idea of mixing energies with other people brings up some fear in you. You associate these interactions with various things not involving true “connection”.

If you were in your natural state of connection—feeling good, tapped in, peaceful—you would be surrounded by the energy of millions of non-physical beings who are watching your trajectory and offering subtle suggestions in every moment. You would hear “voices”, or feel a sway in one direction, or get a bright idea. That is the greatest socialization there is. Your inspired thought may lead you to a park, where you have a conversation with a tree, or a pigeon, or a person on a bench. All these things are worthy of your connection. Human chatter is not the highest form of connection you see. But in those moments where you are inspired to do something, that is a connection. And on the way there, you will be connecting. And when you arrive, you will still be connected. And this state of connection may attract a physical representation of that connection in the way of a conversation, or a gathering, or a ritual, or class. It may just be you.

It is not the presence of physical beings, or their absence, which makes you connected to them. It is the very fact that you cannot but be connected. You cannot get so low in your vibration as to sever yourself off from who you truly are. You cannot disconnect in a true sense ever.

Now you ask about danger. And from our perspective, there is no danger ever. Everything occurs in a perfect self-reflective system meant for exploration and self-discovery. There is no danger. There are events you would prefer not to experience. But because you live in a self-reflective system, these are events you actually want from a higher perspective. You did not come here to live a sheltered life, knowing all the answers ahead of time, in order to make no “mistakes.” You came here for the adventure. Some of your adventures will include other physical bodies, and some will seem to be solitary. But in all these adventures, solitude is an illusion. You are never alone. You are never without guidance. You are always enveloped by a stream of connective energy, of which, you are an integral and valuable part.

Your presence is a valuable contribution to all that is. And whether you spend your days surrounded by physical people, or you sit on a couch petting your dog, you will have expanded, and your life will have created something significant from the highest perspective.

The question we would ask you is, in each moment, what experience do you prefer?

With our love,