Re-Thinking Family Relationships

Greetings Dear One,

I haven't updated my blog in a while and just right now I was inspired to change that.

What's on my mind today? Family relationships.

I am sitting on a red velvet couch in my mother's guest house in Connecticut, thinking about the arbitrary importance we place on family relationships.

Let's start with this as a basis for understanding: We are beings of pure love. Our natural state is love. We are ONE with all that is.

Why then, does it matter how your father treats you, how much your daughter loves you, or how often your sister calls you?

Because we place an unnatural importance on family relationships. It is totally condoned by our society, and the "rules" around relationships vary greatly culture to culture. There is no innate truth in how we should relate to our relations.

We think there is a "good" protocol for being a mother, for instance. But that protocol doesn't stay "good" across the board, for every culture, or even for every person. What's good for the mother of the 3 year old for instance, would be absurd, for the mother of the 30 year old.

If we are truly beings of love, why does our relationship with our mother matter more than our relationship with the mail carrier? Why do we love our own children more the neighbor's?

Have you ever wondered this or even thought about it?

Now, it's certainly not "bad" to love your children, or to have a harmonious relationship with your mother. If you have those things going on in your life, run with it! Enjoy it! (You have my blessing, even though you don't need it.)

However, what happens when our relationships fall outside of what we think is normal?

We experience severe negative emotion.

We get tripped up when our father doesn't call often enough, or too much, or not at the right times. We resent our mother for being critical, or too blazé, or for forgetting to send us a birthday card.

Now I believe we create our own reality. So while it is totally valid to say "a mother should be loving", or "an uncle should mind his own business", or a "child should respect her elders." It just isn't empowering us. 

Because if you are believing this, any time someone acts in a way that contradicts how you think things should be, you are going to spiral downward into a pit of despair, rage, etc. It will affect how you feel about yourself. It will add more fuel to the fire of low self-esteem, feelings of being unloved and under appreciated...

What if you selected the relationships you enjoy, and focused SOLELY on those? What if you could let your mother have all the opinions she wants and not see her as wrong? What if you understood that your cousin has her own perspective, and nothing she could do or say meant anything about your worth? Wouldn't that feel AMAZING?!

What if your wonderful relationship to your mail carrier, your neighbor, your Uber driver, or your cashier meant more to you than the little upsets between your blood relatives?

What if you could re-write the story of what relationships can be, so as to empower yourself and to FEEL GOOD no matter what?

What if feeling good about yourself, and accepting yourself unconditionally in every moment was your #1 priority in life?

Can you even imagine that??

I began a process about 3 months ago working with Gary Temple Bodley, a man who channels a group of non-physical beings called Joshua. I began as a student and was soon asked to join his team as a coach. In this 8-week Bootcamp Joshua shows you how to pinpoint your limiting beliefs and prove them wrong. For example, a limiting belief is: "my mother should love me more." This belief is not empowering or beneficial to you. You can prove it wrong. There is a system for this.

I invite you to check out the Joshua Live podcast and see if this material resonates with you as much as it has for me. If you'd like to know more, feel free to connect with me: info AT sirgunkaur DOT com