Are You Afraid to Shake Things Up?

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I loved this question and answer so much because I had a similar situation a few months ago. I contacted someone who had meant a lot to me. I was inspired to send a friend request via Facebook. Immediately after I sent the request I began regretting my decision: "what if he doesn't accept it?" "What if he's still mad at me?"

The biggest limiting belief I had was that he would think I was a loser for remembering him after so long. And yet... I did it. Because I was inspired. And the pain of suppressing that inspiration (yet again) was too great not to act.

It is clear to me now, even though he did end up rejecting my friend request, that this was such a beneficial action for me to play out. Because if I hadn't, I'd still wonder. Because if I hadn't, I would not have gotten to process the limiting belief that what he thinks about me should matter. Because if I hadn't, I would not have a connection to this question you are about to read... and the answer may therefore have been channeled differently.

I am so grateful for my connection to what I call "SARA". Sara is simply the way I conceive of the stream that speaks through me when I tune into non-physical energy. Sara is all my ancestors, all my guides, my Soul... I also connect to a friend who died when I was a teenager, whom I've always felt was my guardian angel. She saved me from dying in a car crash a few years ago. It's funny what we "know" when we start to tune in. I can't prove any of this to you.

But I know that if I were to sit down to a computer and TRY to answer a question like this from my perspective I would get blocked. I would care what you thought about my answer. As it stands, I can bring forth the highest perspective I can reach for, and I have no attachment to what anyone else gets from it. It is for you if you want it to be. But it is definitely for me.



Question: Should I open back up conversation with the mother of my husbands biological daughter who he has basically had no relationship with. I’ve felt depleted energetically and confused by her over the years and about a year ago told her I was letting go of continuing to communicate with her. I’ve felt several times since then that I want to reach out again and let her know I support in the future our daughters having a relationship if that is their desire. And sometimes hold on to hope we can reach some common ground as mothers for our daughters even though our communicating history has felt frustrating to me. Not clear if this is fear or inspiration to attempt to reach out again despite me having the last words of not wanting to keep in contact with her. 

Answer: Your true nature is one of total love and acceptance. This woman has chosen to play a very specific role in your life, out of love. In the non-physical realm you each understand the essence of the other and there is no quarrel or dispute. There is only love. Your desire to reach out to her is in alignment with the intentions you set prior to your birth. The outcome is out of your control.

When you feel called to reach out to someone and it is then followed by fear, you can be sure you have received inspiration. You have a few limiting beliefs to process before this can reap any good for either of you.

Limiting belief #1: How she responds will validate or negate my desire to reach out. You cannot control how she chooses to respond—or if she responds at all. You cannot control if she lashes out, or sends you flowers. It’s out of your control. What you can control is your own clarity. Your actions could cause a manifestation event for both of you. That is OK. It’s not in your control.

Limiting belief #2: The status quo is comfortable, why shake it up now? In fact, you can be sure that when things feel too comfortable, it is time to start taking some inspired actions again. You did not come here to lay in a chaise longue and suntan on a beach in mild weather. You came here to experience storms, and hurricanes, and feel the exhilaration of navigating yourself through all of this, in the pursuit of truly understanding your worth and your power. There is no need to fear “shaking things up.” Only good can come from following your inspirations… at least that is how we see it. You may feel differently about this at first, but time tends to give its own higher perspective of situations, and you will come to see that everything that happens has a purpose in uncovering a buried treasure you may not have known was there.

Limiting belief #3: I did something wrong by cutting her out of our lives. The fact is, you can do no wrong. There are no wrong actions. You can see that all of the steps you took in your life led you to the point of being curious about this subject. It led you to join a community where you would have access to a higher perspective. It led you to wonderful discoveries about yourself and your loved ones. Whether this woman has chosen to benefit from the gifts of her interaction with you, or not, is up to her. It was all meant to be, and it all served a purpose. Practically speaking, you cannot go back and change your actions, and you cannot know that different actions would have led either of you to better circumstances, so might as well assume it’s all perfect as it is—and we will tell you it is.

So now that you have nothing to fear, nothing to regret, and everything to gain, why would you prevent yourself from contacting this woman?

The next time you receive a message about her, ask yourself how attached you are to the outcome of this. How much does it matter if her response is favorable? How much does it matter to you if she ends up being grateful or resentful of you? Ah, because that is power: contacting her in the full knowing of your worthiness, your truth, your strength, for the sheer reason that Source has called you to contact her. What might arise as a result of THAT interaction?

The entire Universe wants to know.

With our love,